If it’s not one thing it’s another. There is always something going on. The distractions are endless, take your pick. I’m not just talking about the outside world that you can see. I’m speaking of the inside wars that taunt us each day to give in to its madness. The quote this week is about the solution, and that is to just let go!
Let Go of Pretentiousness
Pretending to be something or have something that you don’t have to be a miserable spot to be in. The mental energy it takes to keep the charade up is not a good use of time or energy. I know that it can feel disappointing to not have what you want or be who you want to be, but it’s okay to feel that for a moment. Feelings should not be pushed aside. I encourage you to feel. When events in your life do not work out the way you hoped they would be is not the time to pretend that it didn’t affect you and go into a pretentious mode. Please, this is no time to impress others. There are some who can see right through it anyway.
The solution is to let it go. It serves no purpose for getting you to progress. Sometimes things happen, and we must go back to formula, and that’s okay. It’s also good to give yourself time to reflect and re-energize. Those who really care about you don’t expect you to bounce back like nothing ever happened or expect you to prove something. Life gets to all of us at some point. Our reaction is everything.
Everything is not for you to control. I know it’s hard to hear, but it’s not. The only control you have is over your own behavior. We may be able to influence others in a certain way, but we can’t control them. Trying to assert your control in situations where other peoples will is involved only leads to frustration. The sooner you let it go the better off you will feel.
The literature states that a person who has experienced abuse or trauma typically looks for ways to regain control. When it doesn’t work out they find something in their environment to control, it could be anything, food, a routine, or any other thing. The challenge then is to understand what a healthy solution is. The same solution doesn’t work for everyone. When you let go of trying to control others, things, and situations look at yourself. Challenge yourself to learn and self-develop. Feel the freedom and mental space to grow into the person you dream of.
Let Go of Lies
Let go of lies that tend to hinder your progress. Most of the time we can shake off a lie someone may say about us, but what about the ones we tell ourselves. Those seem to be more harmful. Lies are negative talk. Negative talk has a way of discouraging you for a whole day, or even weeks if you let it. I say let it go right away. Along with letting it go, it’s important to mark the trail that brought it. I’m talking about triggers. We all have them. It could be seeing something, hearing something or remembering something. However, it hits you, it’s important to acknowledge it as a trigger and don’t believe the lies that come with it.
To sum up, the solution of letting go, embrace the truth. To discover the truth is to live in freedom. You ask yourself what truth is. Our truths may vary, but I feel we can agree that it is honesty. Find those things in your life that are honest, that offer freedom, and pull you forward instead of backward. This week I encourage you to be free, JUST LET GO!