One of the hardest things to do is believe in yourself. Yet, believing in yourself is one of the key ingredients of being successful. I have my opinion about why this meaningful task is so hard to do for most of us, but I’d rather talk about a solution. The main point I want to share in this brief blog is “the how.” I can sum this up in 3 short steps for you to consider.
To know yourself is not to just focus on the flaws you feel you have. There are plenty of people who are willing to point those out for you. I’m talking about knowing your gifts and talents. Your gifts and talents come with skills, some innate and some developed. Feeling comfortable knowing yourself comes with practice. The practice involves acceptance of what makes you uniquely you. The challenge of this process is not only deprogramming the negative messages you have been told about yourself by others but also yourself. It can be the result of something that didn’t work out and you felt like somehow that meant you’re a failure, not true!
Borrow Belief From Others
If you are fortunate to have people in your life that believe in you, go with it. Sometimes we have to feed off the faith that others have in us when ours is low or we are in search of it. The challenge in this step is to not stay there. While it is nice to have people believe in you, it only lasts for a time. It’s not that they lose the faith, but that it won’t be enough to sustain the motivation you need to reach your goals. If there is something you want to be successful at, you have to want it bad enough, not them. It is you that needs to believe in yourself enough to put in the work on your own dreams.
Doubt will try to discourage you in many forms, always refuse it. Sometimes it’s a struggle because it seems to have such logic, refuse it still. Doubt only serves to hinder your progress. One of the ways to discourage doubt is to believe the opposite of what it says. See the example below:
Doubt says, “You will never be anything.”
You say, “I am already something and I’m working towards more.”
I hope you got the message. Believing in yourself is a must. I believe you can do it!